Of taxi drivers slash personal marriage counsellors, Egypt demos and controls

In the name of Allah,
Most Gracious, Most Merciful,
Praise be to Allah,
the Cherisher and Sustainer of the Worlds,
and Peace and Prayer be upon the Final Prophet and Messenger. Abdullah Yusuf Ali, The Holy Quran

Everytime me and husband went for a taxi ride, we always get free marriage counseling from the taxi drivers.  It was uncanny how the taxi drivers got excited whenever they knew we're actually a married couple since both of us were like so young(to them) and our looks didn't help that much. I was once mistaken for a 3rd Former. 15 y/o, seriously?

So anyways, this one uncle is a Malay muslim and he has been married to his wife for 45 years now. He told us that it will not be the same way as it will be like the first few weeks of marriage. For the relationship to grow, we will need to tolerate and be patient with other  and all that John Gray's stuff. Interestingly, I asked him a question, well, we're all students of the university of life aren't we? The question was,

"Will the love still exist, even when the marriage has reached 45 years like yours? I mean, you see, it wouldn't be the same like during the early years won't it?"

The uncle gave me an answer I can never forget and that is what I need to hear really. He told me,

"No, it won't be the same. It will just get stronger."

Still in my 5 months of marriage, I have realized that it wasn't really that easy to live with your other half, because you're like so used with your own OCD-ness and sometimes, your partner tick you off, and you, them, but that doesn't mean that we don't love each other anymore and I guess it is normal to even be angry once in a while with your partner, provided that you don't irrationally lash out in an inappropriate way.

The second taxi driver was an Indian hindu and him, he has been married for 25 years now. He was lecturing us about polygamy and well, I feel somewhat guilty when I couldn't know what to answer him when he asked me would I want my husband to marry another woman.

Truth is, I am a VERY jealous person and back during my schooling days, I couldn't even stand it if my best friend hanged out with other girls. During my college days, I once kicked a guy, who I once was kind of in a relationship with before I become a Muslim, at his shin till it got all bruised and it even turned blue(I still feel guilty about it) just because he accidentally glanced(yes, glance. I wonder what I would do if he stared) at my friend who wore a mini skirt.

Enough of my jealousy level.

So anyways, logically, someone of my jealousy level would actually immediately burst into flames the moment I heard the word 'polygamy'. AND to be honest, I did ask my husband whether if he can promise me not to marry someone else because I really can't stand the thought of him loving another woman as he had loved me. I understand why men can do polygamy and all, but yes, my jealousy was holding me back.

But one Q&A session during 2011's first Twins of Faith festival changed everything.

I remember it was during the sisters session and there's this one question about how women actually view polygamy. There's this one woman who rised and actually supports it, when most of us were kind of in between. She told the whole auditorium, that the reason that she supported polygamy is that,

"My husband is a good man and I would like for my sisters to marry a good man as well."

Her speech reeks of sincerity and selflessness and I feel ashamed of myself. But of course, that doesn't mean I'm gonna go and immediately tell my husband to find someone quick. I understand, really, what the woman said. It is really hard these days to find a good man and alhamdulillah, I got married to one by Allah's will.

So yeah, her speech changed my declination from polygamy and I will understand if one day the need comes for polygamy. But my husband told me that not all can handle polygamy and he thinks he is of the majority of those who will not do it. I'm not gonna elaborate cause that will be some cheesy stuffs he said to me, but yeah, I'm really glad when I heard that. :P

My point here is, there are indeed reasons for everything and be sure that everything that Allah has laid out for us are just and not unfair at all. After all, He knows best, right? And my second point is, so we know that taxi drivers are marriage counsellors too now. Cool.

Source : http://bara-no-hana.tumblr.com/post/33769238613

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Yesterday, I was really shocked when I knew about the uprising of rebels currently in Egypt. They were demostrating against the government which all of us know is now led by Dr. Mohammed Mursi of Ikhwanul Muslimin. It took me a while to digest this and it got me wondering "What is it now?" seeing that they were the ones who elected him as president in the first place. I trust Dr. Mursi has done the best he can but apparently, the demonstrations were due to unfulfilled wants of the citizens and seriously, even though the government has now changed for the better, but how can you expect for years worth of damage to be handled in just a few months? It wasn't fair and it got me thinking, no matter how many times they change the president, it won't amount to anything if they themselves don't change.

This got me wondering about PRU-13, but let's just keep those thoughts to ourselves shall we?


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"I am starting to lose control of my life."

Sounds familiar?

But y'know, in the end, all we can do is strive, but the control to our lives? They were never ours in the first place. Always remember that, and you'll never worry ever again.



That's all for now peeps. Time to hit them books.

"Sometimes we can't just say "Allah has a better plan for us." 

We have to believe He does."