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In the name of Allah,
Most Gracious, Most Merciful,
Praise be to Allah,
the Cherisher and Sustainer of the Worlds,
and Peace and Prayer be upon the Final Prophet and Messenger. Abdullah Yusuf Ali, The Holy Quran

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The longer I am in marriage life, the more I am baffled to why people would resort to premarital relationship a.k.a 'couple'. When you're dating, there are lots of things you can't do (by Islamic law, that is) and also no matter how much you love him/her, it's not really secured until they are married to you and especially to girls, marriage is a form of security you can't get from relationship outside of marriage.

And when I say 'security', I meant in terms of physical interactions. Let's say you've done almost everything with your boyfriend, should anything happen, nauzubillah, you can't get him to be responsible because he's not committed to you on black and white. So marriage is basically a contract to give justice in your relationship, no matter what should happen next.

And also, when you have done almost everything that's supposed to be reserved for the halaal relationship e.g. hold hands etc. , it won't feel as sweet as doing it the FIRST time with your lawful partner.

Seriously, all relationships out of wedlock are haraam for a reason and I believe one of the reason is that Allah knows the human nature more than we do ourselves. Imagine given a choice to drive a car and one of them is second-hand but the other one is brand new, of course we would want to drive the brand new car.

The same in relationship, we love that we are their first and us vice versa. It just makes things even more special and I have to say, perhaps you might not agree with it now but once you're married, you'll understand.

BUT to those who's already involved in dating, the best thing to do is to try your best to get married as soon as possible.

If you say, 'I'm engaged', if it's only between you and him/her, that's not 'engagement'. That's just a status you create for yourself to make yourself feel less guilty and by Allah, I think even if you can fool everyone, you can't fool yourself. I know, I've been there.

And one more thing, if you really do claim to love him/her, you wouldn't ditch him/her immediately the second you find someone better and more attractive. That's not love if you don't want to be with him/her forever.

And perhaps you think to yourself that I might not understand, but the sad fact is, I do. I've been in a relationship before but that was before I become a Muslim. But I still regret that up till now because unlike me, I am a first for my husband so that just made me regret it more that I have been in a relationship before although that was during my pre-Farah era.

So yeah, which is why I can claim that I can compare that feeling of being in an unlawful relationship with a lawful one.

Save yourself from the Hell fire. Why choose to immerse yourself in Allah's wrath for the unlawful love that you claim to have?

InshaAllah, if you truly desire jannah, you will try as best as you can to get closer to Allah by all means.

To those not yet married, I pray that Allah eases your path and that you will be given the strength to do what is best for your Deen. :)

 And among His signs is this that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.[Ar-Ruum, 30: 21]

"Sometimes we can't just say "Allah has a better plan for us." 

We have to believe He does."