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"Untung laaa"

Which translates into "How lucky!", "Good for you." or something to that effect. I don't really think that I did any justice to the meaning that the phrase is trying to convey but that was the closest that I was able to muster.

I have heard this so many times and to be honest, I don't really fancy it. Okay, fine, I don't like it. Especially when you're on the receiving end of this phrase. 

I have no idea how it started but suddenly it became a trend. Whenever something good happened to someone, immediately I will hear someone saying it, but not in an amused way but in a way that can only translates to 'envy'.

I get this all the time. When I was about to get married, when I got a good grade for my exam, when I talk about my husband, when I published my book, and even when I am to be phone interviewed.

To be honest, I try not to take it to heart but yeah, I don't like it when I received that kind of comment when all you were trying to do is trying to share something good that is happening in your life. 

Alhamdulillah I don't get that all the time. 

When I got married, something a friend said touched me to the core and I assure you it was not "Untung laaa".

She told me that, "Alhamdulillah, finally your misery will end." while hugging me in tears. I did not debate though I was tempted to say "InshaAllah" because I did not want to ruin her sincerity by correcting her statement like a jerk. I understood what she was trying to say. She was saying, at least you have someone now because you used to be so alone, and lonely without support.

I am not about to compare people here because I try to think that perhaps the "Untung laaaa" given to me was just a thoughtless comment without any ill feelings. Yes, I am trying to be open about it and am trying not to think about it that much, but of course, again, as I have said over and over, there's a reason why Rasulullah say this for our reference, 
"Speak good or remain silent." (Bukhari & Muslim)
Because words can do a lot of things, be it hurt people or inspire. 

No matter how God fearing you are, or no matter how God avoiding you are, what people will carry in their hearts after having a conversation with you will stay with them all their lives. 

Mind your choice of words, or if you can't, let's hope that everyone talking to you will be thinking good of you despite your words, but the latter is not really realistic isn't it?


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