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Sharer | Whiner

In the name of Allah,
Most Gracious, Most Merciful,
Praise be to Allah,
the Cherisher and Sustainer of the Worlds,
and Peace and Prayer be upon the Final Prophet and Messenger. Abdullah Yusuf Ali, The Holy Quran

[alert: To those easily offended for no reason(even when I'm not talking about them but they still manage to find a way to get offended which the fact itself mind-boggles me) you may click the X button. Thank you. 
Don't say I didn't warn ya. ]


I can't help but feel annoyed when I saw the 'be patient, don't you know that you're lucky' or 'look at all the other people who weren't given the chance like u' comment to my post(wherever I'm writing at).

I'm annoyed because it's not like I'm writing my story to whine about it. 'Sharing' and 'whining' are totally different words with different meanings. They even have different spellings for God's sake!(err...obviously -_-)


So, kids, for those who have a problem in telling the difference between those two things, lemme give you some enlightenment.


According to the online Merriam-Webster dictionary,



3share

 verb

4
: to tell (as thoughts, feelings, or experiences) to others —often used with with



1whine

 verb \ˈhwīn, ˈwīn\
2
: to complain with or as if with a whine 



People want me to share about my life experience, and when I did, some of them accused me of whining. If I still have my vulgarity back from those days, I'd say those three letters(oh you know what those 3 letters are. Don't pretend you don't.).

But I'll just say a much better sounding exclamation as an expression of my feelings when I saw those kind of comments which is, "Apakah??" an equivalent to "Whattt??!!!" or a not-so-smiley face, like this  =_=*.

Or kalau nak bajet baik sikit I will perhaps say 'Astaghfirullahal'azim'. Oh memang kena istighfar banyak-banyak pun.

Okay, I will calm down now.

.....



But I won't pretend to be someone who's okay with all these nonsense and just sit back smiling prettily, giggling 'hihihi' even though I am hurting a lot in the inside.

And yes, my motive of writing this is so that, those people, who thought that I am whining, I repeat, to those people that thought that I am whining about my life(this emphasis is to avoid orang yang tak berkaitan sentap tak memasal), would know that I am not whining and,

"Please. Stop it. You're hurting my feelings."

At least, when I get this out of my system, you will know, so perhaps you may stop launching those nonsensical(and rather insensitive) comments at me, so that you won't have to apologize to me during Judgment Day.

It takes a lot of effort to even write about my painful experience to begin with and when people requested for me to share about it, I just couldn't decline because I hope that perhaps my stories will inspire those who read it to be better Muslims by appreciating what they have from birth without them having to put up with all that I had. Again, to be taken as an inspiration, not to be taken as a complaint.

This, all these, that I am writing, IS REALLY happening to me. And yes, some of my readers(the nicer ones) had told me over and over to just ignore those comments, but I just can't. Because I'm human, and being human, I am fragile in the inside.

Everyone else cried like I did, and some even went through way worst situations than I am so what makes me any different than anybody else?

If anyone is to be commenting on how an ingrate I have been, the only one permitted to do so is Allah, because really, when I whine, I whine to Him. Not to the world, not to this blog.


If one day I am to write these on my blog,

"I hate my life."

"Why is everything so hard for me?"

"Can't my life be easier?"

"Why am I not born a Muslim? Then  I wouldn't have to put up with all these hardships!"

...now, that's when you will be permitted to comment that how I am being an ungrateful person, and how I am so lucky to be given hidayah in the first place and you may even say "Stop whining!".


But until then, I am merely sharing a portion of my experiences. Kapische?


Oh, do I sound angry? I hope not. Wouldn't want to be a whiner now don't we?




ps: But then again, perhaps they meant well when they said it, but still, they still think that I am whining. So, I will not retract this post.

pps: And no, I am not angry while I am writing this post.

ppps: And noooo, nasty comments are not acceptable in any way as a form of 'emotional training'.

pppps: I should stop postscripting.

ppppps: Ok I will stop now.





"Sometimes we can't just say "Allah has a better plan for us." 
We have to believe He does."

Comments

  1. Assalamualaikum Farah,

    I am reading and trying to be in your shoes. Hope it is not to big for me. Take care.

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  2. just proves there's a very thin line between sharing and whinning.

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  3. Waalaikumsalam wrt.

    Aww sis, jgn salah faham. It's not about boleh bayangkan berada dlm keadaan sy atau tak.

    This post is just about nak clearkan tanggapan certain orang yg ingat sy mcm complain pasal life sy instead of viewing it as a sharing of experience. I know u understand that I'm just sharing my stories. :) Hope I didn't offend u in any way. :)

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  4. Assalamualaikum Farah,


    Take care and take care... ;-).

    Farah, my dua will be with you, InsyaAllah. And may Allah gives us strength in our journey to be better Muslimah.

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  5. I've been thinking and I still can't figure out the three letter word...

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  6. lol. that's why i mentioned 'those three letters' only. It's not a word. It's 3 words. Have fun guessing. I bet u know what it is already.

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  7. like the last part....haha
    anyway, still can't figure out what is 'those three letter'...

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  8. those plate numbers already come out circa Nov 2009

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  9. what plate numbers my dear anonymous? i'm assuming u're referring to 'those three letters'.

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  10. FARAH,

    SOMETIME BILA KITA RASA DOWN, BY WRITING IT DOWN, BOLEH BUATKAN KITA RASA LAGI DOWN. IT'S LIKE KITA LAGI MENGAPI-APIKAN PERASAAN TU.

    DO REMEMBER, SYAITAN SENTIASA MENGAPI APIKAN PERASAAN NEGATIF DALAM DIRI KITA,

    NA'UDZUBILLAHI MINASYAITHO NIRROJIIM..

    MAYBE DEACTIVATING THE COMMENT SIDE WOULD BE BETTER I GUESS.

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  11. Merriam-Webster dictionary is the best, yeah !!!!!!!!!!

    hahahaha...

    'Sharing' and 'whining'... it is important for us to actually differentiate them.

    those two words, aish... teringat zaman lama2...

    i thought she was whining, but then it was actually sharing... argh.... minda tak matang... hahaha

    =)

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  12. farah dear,

    u sound very displeased there.

    i might sound very self centered here, but take this word of mine:-

    care abt nobody, please urself first. u learn from there soon.

    :P

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