What are words?

[Caution : Do not skim through. You might misunderstand me.]

Which is the title of a song by Chris Medina. Nice song, especially the instrumental. You should try hearing it when you have nothing better to do. 

So. 

I think most of us take the gift of speech for granted. I think there are reasons for Rasulullah to say "Speak good or remain silent"[Bukhari & Muslim] as a reminder to all of us. The hadiths are, treasure to us, if you will. 

The hadiths are not there to be quoted and reposted over and over again without us actually taking it seriously. There is no valid reason to speak ill to someone and what is more common than sarcasm in these days conversations?

"They didn't mean it."

Of course, we tell ourselves that, over and over again, but no matter how hard you try to think that perhaps it wasn't really personal, you have to admit it still hurts to be called names or be yelled at, for some people who actually experienced that. 

Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse, but while physical scars fade away, the scars inflicted by words remains. You may never get over it, unless by any chance you bumped your head and lose that terrible memory. 

Just as much as you hate being spoken ill to, the same goes to the other party. No matter how much you apologize or how you emphasize that your INTENTION was not to hurt them, believe me, it still hurts because there is no one here in this world we live in that exist without feelings. 

To make myself clear, this post is not personally directed to anyone and I am not disregarding all efforts done via Facebook or the likes. I'm just sick with  the usage of sarcasm for the purpose of 'advising'. That's all. 

When giving advice, I believe the reason for you to advise that person was for that person's own good. If it is so, why am I hearing sarcasm? Is there no other way to say what you have to say in a nice way? You, so-called daies, or Facebook daies if I am allowed to add, why is it so fulfilling to degrade others in your vociferously sarcastic ways? To be honest, I am not surprised that the only ones you're attracting are the ones that are only in the usrah itself. So yes, continue being in your 'comfort circle', just hoarding all the people that wanted usrah in the first place because that's what da'wah means right? Sit in your 'comfort circle' while you cringe your nose at people who are not mahram holding hands right in front of you. Let's just grab a popcorn and talk trashy things about people who don't adorn the hijab while you and others who are like you, continue to just watch and think that you have done lots of things when in reality you aren't really? Oh sorry, I forgot your Facebooking efforts. My apologies. 

Yes, the above paragraph is pure sarcasm but I believe I need not explain that since you are fluent in the language itself.

Anywho, if it hurts, you should know that what I am doing/writing is exactly the same thing that you were writing on Facebook, which means that other people could be hurt by what you posted.

I have no qualms in posting this. I have had enough of these so-called advices. It's just wrong.

To make my point, I don't think Rasulullah himself has ever advised someone using sarcasm and I am certain he would not have been a Facebook daie. He wouldn't have the time with all the real da'wah he was doing.

I rest my case.